Regardless of how many hours you’ve spent teaching your children how to be well behaved and have manners, there are still going to be times where bad behavior becomes an issue for both you and them. When this happens, it can be frustrating trying to understand why your child is misbehaving and what you can do to make sure this doesn’t happen again. While this isn’t always a possibility, there are things you can do to help minimize your child’s bad behavior and help instill good emotional habits. To show you how, here are three tips for dealing with behavior issues with your children.
Understanding the Keys to Successful Discipline
When your child misbehaves, the best thing you can do to teach that this behavior is unacceptable is to enforce some kind of proportionate discipline. However, this is often harder for parents than they might think. According to KidsHealth.org, parents should be sure that they’re serious and consistent with their discipline. Without these two keys of successful discipline, your child may not react appropriately to your warnings or the consequences you give them for their actions. Be sure you always discipline the same way for the same misbehavior and that you always give out any discipline you say you will.
Give Issues Forethought
In the moment, discipling your child for behavior issues can be overwhelming. Especially if their behavior has made you mad or otherwise upset, choosing how to discipline at the time of the incident might not be the best idea. To avoid this, Shana Schutte, a contributor to FocusOnTheFamily.com, recommends for parents to develop parenting plans for disciplining after certain circumstances. By deciding how you’ll handle backtalk, broken rules or those behavior issues by your children, you may find that you’re more successful at addressing these issues while also getting a better response from your children.
Perfecting the Behavior Sandwich
If you notice that your child commonly has the same behavioral problem that you can’t seem to help them break, you may want to consider thinking about these issues at a behavioral sandwich. This means that, according to ChildMind.org, you look at the ABC’s of their behavior: antecedents, behaviors, and consequences. By studying what triggers seem to lead to this behavior, what your child’s response is to these triggers, and the consequences that are then given—whether positive or negative—you may have a better chance at stopping bad behaviors and encouraging good behaviors.
Having a child with behavioral problems, whether it’s at home or at school, can make you feel like you’ve done something wrong as a parent. But by using the tips mentioned above for assisting your child with their reactions and your reactions as well, you can begin to see positive changes in your child’s behavior that will result in more happiness and harmony all around.